In keeping with my theme of selecting a new focus for every month this year, in October, I have decided to continue on with my new found positive mindset… and focus on optimism. I have been thinking a lot about this word and what it means to me. I finally looked it up in the Merriam–Webster online dictionary and found this:
: a feeling or belief that good things will happen in the future : a feeling or belief that what you hope for will happen
Examples of OPTIMISM
- Both of them expressed optimism about the future of the town.
- The early sales reports are cause for optimism.
- There is growing optimism that the problem can be corrected.
- He maintains a sense of optimism, despite all that has happened.
And I know that I go a bit overboard with it sometimes. When we are sailing, I am a fiend for weather reports, current and tidal charts, and such. If the wind is supposed to rise to 30 knots at 4 p.m. by 3 o'clock I want to be reefing the mainsail so we don’t have to attempt it in a gale. The Captain, on the other hand, although mostly practical, very safety conscious and level-headed, is always looking for things to go right and just expects that they will.
Another example comes easily to mind… he and I almost never choose to travel the same route when we are driving to any particular destination. When I am at the wheel I will go out of my way to avoid making a left hand turn at an uncontrolled and somewhat busy intersection. And I will drive automatically to the far end of a parking lot to make sure I find an empty spot… whereas he almost never has to wait more than a few seconds to make that same left hand turn, and he usually lucks into an empty parking spot right outside the mall door… see what I mean? He expects those things to just fall into place for him, and they normally do.
He is an optimist. I like to think I am a work in progress. But I am making progress and there are a few things I am practising to make that happen more often.
Here are my 5 Ways to Practise Optimism:
Realize that the past does not equal the future
- Just because I didn’t find that parking space in front of the store the last 10 times I looked for one, doesn’t mean there won’t be one there the next time.
- Stop worrying about what might happen and take some risks. Understand that life involves uncertainties and not everything will go well, but some will. Hmmm… another confession… I am a control freak so this is really hard for me.
- Worrying and indecision are a waste of time. No one has enough time to dilly dally. Do it.
- I know am not going to do a 180 with this . It is all right for me to still prepare for the worst but hope for the best. It isn’t black or white. I am never going to throw caution completely to the wind and that is okay.
- I used to work with a woman that always expected something bad to happen… and she was never disappointed. It seemed like she wore it as a badge of honor. She was always right about things in her life going wrong and she was such a downer to be around. Happy, energetic, positive people attract others of the same mindset. I want to be with positive energetic people. Who doesn’t?
Are you an optimist? Do you prepare for the worst?