Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Fear or Love… Where Are You Coming From?

The Fall 2014 season of The Biggest Loser has begun… and along with Bob and Dolvett, there are 2 new trainers…. Jessie and Jennifer.  This is not going to be a post about The Biggest Loser, or a recap of the first episode, but it is a take off on something that Jen said during the show.  She talked about coming either from a place of FEAR or a place of LOVE.

Fear or Love\

That really struck a chord with me and I have been thinking about it quite a bit ever since.

I have been trying to get back on track with my workouts and food plan since returning home from our vacation to Colorado at the end of August.  I have gained a couple of pounds over the past several months, and I am afraid that if I don’t work out enough and if I keep eating crap. I am going to keep gaining weight and keep getting softer… that I won’t be comfortable wearing the new dresses I bought… and on and on and ON.   I have been struggling a lot and really not doing well at all.  I am working out hard and regularly but really feel like it’s a waste of my time and effort because I am not supporting the work with good fuel. or maybe I should say, that along with the good food, I am eating a fair bit of junk… which is really quite unlike me.  So I am talking a much better game than I have been playing.

It is obvious to me now, that they key words in that paragraph are TRYING and AFRAID.

Yes, I have been coming from a place of FEAR…which is causing a lot of stress… instead of LOVING myself and taking care of myself. I have been TRYING and not DOING.  This is such a change in mindset and I am so glad to have come to the place where I can really take in that information and relate to it  and make good use of it,


Coming from/being motivated by FEAR  leads to:
  • deprivation, dieting mindset
  • stress, worry, apprehension 
  • tentativeness, hesitation
  • shyness
  • avoidance
  • overwork, injury
  • crankiness, moodiness
  • self-doubt
  • self-pity

Coming from/being motivated by LOVE leads to:
  • awareness
  • self-nourishment
  • good choices
  • confidence
  • rest, relaxation
  • happiness
  • energy, play
  • establishing healthy routines
  • excitement, anticipation

FEAR is so negative… LOVE is so positive.

What about you?  Are you motivated by FEAR or by LOVE?  Do you see the difference?


  1. I have definitely made a change this past year to love myself, flaws & all!

  2. Huge difference! I'm so glad you had that aha moment. It really makes all the difference.

    And I didn't know those two are married?!

    1. It appears now that I was misinformed and I have removed that sentence.

  3. This is such a powerful reminder! Thank you so much for sharing.

  4. I agree, I heard her say it and thought hmm I have not been coming from love lately. Great list of words to help put it in perspective!

  5. Great post - and thought provoking. Depending on the amount of weight someone has to lose and whether or not they've started doing anything about it, sometimes FEAR (of illness, injury, death...) can be a pretty effective motivator for someone to make the first move. Having said that, though, fear is not a sustainable motivator! Love certainly is a good place to move forward from....

  6. I found myself thinking about the same thing from watching the first episode. Choosing to come from Love has changed my mindset instead of Fearing failure and not doing anything. Thanks for sharing!


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